SO MUCH TO LEARN, AND LESS THAN 5 WEEKS TO GO!

get-attachment-5.aspxThere has been a real flurry of activity in our family as of late. There have been doctor’s appointments, baby wearing classes, breastfeeding classes, and even a newborn care class! We are checking off the final must-haves off of baby’s shopping list, and the nursery is really coming together. A place for everything and everything in it’s place…until the baby gets here, that is! I understand that then I should expect chaos! I say BRING IT ON!

Baby wearing, also known as Kangaroo Care, is super interesting and definitely something we will do with our little one. We have 2 carriers for him, and the awesome thing about the baby-wearing meeting is that you can try out and even borrow carriers to practice. The baby has the final word on the carrier after all, and if he ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. Kangaroo care is considered very important for adopted babies, as it really does help with the bonding process. It’s also supposed to help with milk supply for feeding, and we will need all the help we can get! We want him to feel calm, cozy and safe when he enters the world!

The La Leche League is a breastfeeding support group that brings mothers together and helps to answer their questions about feeding their babies. I had a beautiful experience at my first meeting, and I will definitely go back. I met such special people there! One lady in particular was so lovely that she not only invited me over for a visit at her home, she donated her freezer stash of breast milk to our baby! How incredibly generous! She was so kind, and we chatted for hours. It just goes to show that one really can make friends in the darnedest places!

get-attachment-3.aspx Upon suggestion from a friend of mine, P and I went to Babies R Us to sign up for a Baby Registry. No, there is nothing on it yet. Not sure if we will do it at all…but the point of the story is that the young women who did our paperwork with us handed us a $10 gift card. She said, “Good luck! I will be walking your path in a few years once I am ready to start my family. I cannot have biological children, but I cannot imagine not being a parent!” I just wanted to hug her. Love and support comes from the most surprising places, and often, it takes my breath away.

The newborn care class was super fun. I am so glad we did it. It really made us feel like expectant parents. We often miss that feeling because we don’t look like expectant parents. Lack of pregnancy will do that to you! We were the only adoptive parents in the class. I thought I would feel very weird being surrounded by so many very-pregnant women… get-attachment-4.aspxand I DID! I quickly got over myself, and P and I just jumped right in. We had a blast! I promise that if there would have been a competition for fastest diaper changer in the class, P would have won! Of course, I called him Teacher’s Pet, especially after he had our practice doll in a full-on swaddle long before the rest of us got to the second fold.  I was super proud of  P, the Daddy-to-Be!

Our plane tickets are booked, and we are getting so excited for our little special delivery! I cannot thank you all enough for supporting our family in this epic adventure. We definitely feel surrounded by love, and for that we are incredibly grateful.

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We have a DATE! 50 days to go….

LIGHTandGLASS-Annual-Assembly-iCal-Calendar-September-25Em had a doctor’s appointment today, and  both she and baby are doing great. The very exciting news is that we have gotten a date for Em’s planned C-Section. Our little boy will be delivered on September 25, 2013…unless he has other plans.

We will travel to Florida 7 weeks from today. We are so excited, and we cannot wait to see Em and Ed again. Mostly, we are counting the days until we meet our son. 50 days from today….

 

get-attachment.aspxP and I are still busily preparing for our little bundle of joy. There are parenting books absolutely everywhere, reminiscent of when we had German-English dictionaries everywhere when we were dating. We are almost finished with baby’s nursery. We will give you a peek when its all ready. Also my incredibly talented sister just made the world’s most adorable turtle outfit for baby’s newborn photos. That girl can make anything. Seriously amazing!

I made another new friend today, and it seems her nickname is Swirly Girl. How cool is that! She’s a fiery redhead who is filled with joy and laughter. She had me at “Hello.” I had the pleasure of meeting her and her little 7 week old heartbreaker of a son today for lunch. I cannot wait to have another date with them. I feel so lucky to meet such amazing women on my journey to motherhood. It’s not often we have the privilege to make  new friends as an adult.

On the topic of friends, I spend much time today thinking of my friends back in Switzerland. I wish I could beam them all here for a few hours for great food and conversation that we always enjoyed together. The great thing about friends is that they are always with us, The memories and the adventures that we shared are as alive for me today as they were when they occurred, and my love and respect for them is  ever-present. That being said, nothing would make me happier then to spend a few hours with them right now.

P is working late tonight, and I am spending my free evening staring at all of the beautiful baby clothes so kindly given to me for our son. I am enjoying, washing, folding and separating them into their correct drawers. It’s so hard to believe that in 50 days, there will be a baby wearing these clothes. Our baby. In 50 short days.

 

 

The Power of Girl power

UnknownIt’s been a busy week, and I am overwhelmed by the people I have met in the course of it. I’ve always been a big fan of female bonding, and now more than ever, I am reminded of how many truly strong, amazing women that there are in the world. Well, more specific to my situation right now, in the Phoenix Metro area. A fortuitous serious of events led me to meeting the amazing Mrs. M, rock star breastfeeding mamma of two and an all around generous, fun, and gorgeous lady.  Mrs. M is my new friend, and I am so thankful both TO her and FOR her.

 I met Mrs. M though her hubby Mr. M. He owns the management company from whom we rent our house.  He came to do the 6-month inspection on our residence, and we just wound up chatting for about an hour.  He was so kind and easy to talk to. P and I just adored him. When Mr. M heard we were adopting, he kindly offered to put me in touch with the amazing Mrs. M. Then he hesitated for a moment and said, “you’re adopting so your probably can’t breastfeed, right?” It was a bold question from a man to a woman he had just met, but not from a supportive man whose wife is so serious about breastfeeding. Then I told him I fully intended to try my best, to which he said, “Then you MUST talk to my wife!” Mrs. M called me just a few days later.

 Mrs. M and I chatted for a while, and in this very information packed phone call, she had signed me up for a local breast-feeding mammas group (with a few adoptive moms in that mix), invited me to her home, and offered to pump milk for our son. Um… superwoman.  I spoke to Mrs. M for 20 minutes, and she just decided that she would do this until my supply comes in or for as long as she can.

A day after we spoke, I received a text message with a photo of her first bottle of milk for our baby. P and I stared at the photo in awe. This generous woman whom I had not yet met sat at a pump and made food for our son. One cannot put donor breast milk on a baby registry. It can only be given by certain women at certain times in their lives, and it is truly a gift. Every single ounce is a gift.   My eyes were far from dry.

A few days later, I went to meet Mrs. M and her two adorable kiddos at there home in North Phoenix. Girl power at its finest, she just sat and answered questions about parenting that I didn’t even know I had while we played with her kids surrounded by stickers and glitter glue. It’s not easy to make friends as an adult, but I definitely have found one in Mrs. M.  If you read this, lady- you’ve changed my life in a huge way.

Other news for this week-I will go to my first La Leche League meeting. Yes, I am totally nervous. Again, I will be in a room with breastfeeding moms or very pregnant ladies. I will stick out like a sore thumb and I won’t know a soul, but I’m doing it anyway! If I am going to really do this, I have to jump in with both feet. Scared or not, here I go.

I’ve met some really amazing women in the last seven days, and I have talked to others on the phone for hours. These women have opened their hearts and their schedules to help, advise and befriend little ol’ me in this time of craziness, and I am overflowing with gratitude. In my freezer right now, I have 500 ounces of donated milk for our baby from 3 different women who took the time to give this gift to our family, one of whom will be a long term donor. I’m amazed.

I could not imagine my life without the strong female relationships that I hold so dear. Long live girl power.